You are Enough is the guiding focus of Being You Counseling. It seems like a simple three-word sentence and yes, it fits on a post it. But accepting, really accepting that You are Enough is a pretty hard thing to do.
Do Others Really Define You
We define ourselves as so many of the roles we have – student, friend, parent, employee, significant other, spouse, and so many others. We set goals that are not our goals, but instead are set by someone else. Maybe even people we don’t know. We strive everyday to somehow prove to others that we can meet their expectations of us.
But all of these roles, goals, expectations are really some bundled set of expectations that carry with them some definition of who we each should be. But we, just as we are, we are enough.
Perfection is someone else’s definition for us. It is not really us. It is someone else’s interpretation of what we might be or could be or even should be. We will never be what someone else has defined for us. We are enough.
Accepting You are Enough
And if we can accept that we are enough, then we also must begin to see that we are just incredible. There are things about us that are not like anyone imagined us to be. They are not some unattainable goal out there, but instead are the truly remarkable things about us that set us apart from everyone else. We will nurture those aspects because they are enough.
When we are enough, there are no big expectations that we can possibly meet that can convince us that we are enough. You see, those expectations are not our expectations. They belong to someone else. We already know we are enough.
Knowing that we are enough doesn’t mean that there will not be some hard days or rocky days. Some days will be great and others less so, but when you embrace – truly accept – that you are enough, you accept that whatever you have done, whatever you attempted, whatever you tried… You are enough.